Tough love is hard!

Do you know when to say “no”? 

Put your hand up if you give too much of yourself too easily. 

I know I have. It can be hard, wanting to be there, wanting to be a part of everything but also needing to set boundaries. 

Boundaries are so important to establish early on. Early on in a friendship, in business, or in any type of relationship. And even within your own self. 

Know your worth. Understand that your time is valuable. Your energy is valuable. You need to look after yourself in order to be able to be the best version of yourself. You need to look after yourself to be able to show up. To be a wife, mom, sister, and colleague. 

You need to take time out for your own well-being. To understand what you need. Don’t leave you at the bottom of the list. 

Don't give your all and end up burnt out, where you will be no good for no one. 

If you need to re-check your boundaries, start small. And work your way up. Be consistent. And don’t forget to set boundaries for your own self...time on social media, time for leisure, time for work…

It's by applying boundaries with ourselves that we can work on our nafs and protect ourselves from actions that are undesirable. 

We can create better focus and plan for the future.  

The Prophet Muhammed, peace be upon him, warned us to make good use of our time, “Take advantage of five matters before five other matters: your youth before you become old; your health, before you fall sick; your wealth, before you become poor; your free time before you become preoccupied, and your life, before your death.” [Musnad Imam Ahmad]